So we're talking about babies

Assalammualaikum.

I had a pretty interesting topic with my colleagues today. FYI, most of them are 30's and got married. They will talk about children and family stuff. When they buy something for their babies, they will show those stuff to me and ask, "Comel kan? Comel kan?"

Obviously my reaction was...
FACE-PALM

What do you expect? For all my life, I've been working with peeps from my generation and of course the topic is the youth itself. I felt weird at first and I knew I need to adjust my mindset. *facepalm*

Anyway, back to the topic.
I argued with these kakaks about having a child right after got married.
My idea was to have a family planning. I'd prefer to spend the first or second year of marriage alone with husband. You know, enjoy the honeymoon years and save the money for baby's needs.

But they totally disagree with me and brainwashed me instead. =.=
Here are their points.

1. Never plan not-to-have a baby, because if you hold to that plan, you may don't get the luck. Just let everything flows naturally. At least for the first child.

2. If the wifey doesn't get pregnant, people (mostly makcik-makcik) will assume that she is the one who's having problem - infertility. Not the husband.

3. You are completing one of your duty as a wife for being able to give birth to your husband's children.

Right after that, Kak Haida told me her experience while having her first baby.
She paused and said...

"that was the best thing ever happened to me, memang feeling dia indah bila dapat rasa baby tuh dalam perut"

and she continued,

"Best tau dapat rasa baby swimming, buat somersault dalam nih. Kita dapat rasa siku dia, rambut dia, kaki dia bila dia gerak."

=|

Wow.

But I found Kak Zita's story so interesting.

She gave birth to her first daughter in the holy month of Ramadhan. It was on the third Ramadhan. Basically, after delivering a baby there will be postpartum bleeding or we called it "Darah Nifas" in Malay. So..

It was in the month of Ramadhan where it's a compulsory to fast throughout the month but she couldn't complete it.

And so...

she had to make up for the missing days. 27 days.

That's what I called, one of the ultimate sacrifice from a mother.